BETTER THE KINGDOM

What does this title mean to you ? Does it make you curious ? Does it offend you ? These were the favourite words of advice and a frequent challenge of Wes Mensing a special young golf coach. Wes touched a lot of lives. How he used “better the kingdom” may be different than how you or I would. I know touching on anything Christian has become politically incorrect. Frankly, I’m tired of this . I won’t sit here and preach to you, that’s not my place. Hiding behind closed doors to express my thoughts, my beliefs isn’t my place either. If see more and more overlap with fundamental Christian beliefs every day. Better the kingdom could easily been better your world, better your life, better your community and all of that would have been alright. Society is ruining lives, ruining careers on semantics and it is shameful. Watch the video in the link below http://www.golfchannel.com/media/gone-too-soon-story-wes-mensing/     Share...

The Predictable Cycle of “Oh Crap”

With all the stress and the constant feeling of overwhelm, everyone needs to get away. Vacations are fantastic, but when they aren’t possible a few days here and there sure help. I know I need a minimum of three days to unwind. Two days helps but isn’t enough. The cycle of “Oh Crap” kicks in about the end of day 3 if you have been truly relaxing, the mind relaxes and the sub-conscious kicks in automatically. You probably let out a big “ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh” or something similar. If you keep reflecting , fresh thoughts enter. Often it is projects, promises, commitments you made awhile back  but totally forgot. We dive for a notepad or a journal before we forget once again. If we are honest a “tad” of stress kicks in. Sometimes, a lot of stress kicks in. While we are relaxing or trying to, more stuff we must tackle is remembered. Stuff we might have to jump back into as soon as we can. We unload a bunch of crap by getting away but we always reload at least a little. Knowing this will happen and accepting it will happen, softens the blow and reduces the volume of the “Oh Crap” we yell. It’s life, like it or not so be ready to reload just be gentle when you do !   Share...

YES—THE TOP 16 MUST READ LIST HAS BEEN UPDATED !

I’m constantly asked for a “must read” list of books that have inspired my life. I have also been asked to rank them in order. I interviewed Vic Johnson on my blogtalk radio program and  Vic stated that his favorite book has always been the one he needed during a certain phase of his life. I couldn’t agree more so my current rankings are as of today. I’ll try to update this list every 3 months or so. There may be slight changes . Some books won’t show much movement as the classics ARE the classics !! Here we go :   1)     The Traveler’s Gift-Andy Andrews 2)     Day by Day With James Allen-Vic Johnson 3)     Think and Grow Rich- Napoleon Hill 4)     You2 – Price Pritchett 5)     The Secret – Rhonda Byrne 6)     Mastering the Seven Decisions – Andy Andrews 7)     You Were Born Rich -Bob Proctor 8)     Conquer Fear-Lisa Jimenez 9)     I Can See Clearly Now-Wayne Dyer 10)   The Magic of Thinking Big – Dr. David Schwartz 11)   The ONE Thing-Gary Keller 12)   The Slight Edge- Jeff Olson 13) 177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class -Steve Siebold 14)   Become A Better You- Joel Osteen 15)   Awake the Giant Within-Tony Robbins 16)   The Noticer Returns-Andy Andrews     Last Update – July 20, 2015 Share...

What’s Your Rant ??

Maybe this should be a new weekly post so you can all sound off ? Let me know !   I know this week I contacted a HUGE cable company for customer service, didn’t push one for English and talked to someone trying to speak English  to me. My God, what a struggle. Twenty minutes later, they waived charging me for their equipment that crapped out and prevented me from using a TV for almost 3 weeks. What sweethearts ! Next, one of my credit card companies had me on hold for a half hour. Geez–what fun ! I called to let them know I had a bill due but never received it in the mail. Six representatives assured me they mailed it BUT the first 5 told me I could not pay my bill unless I had a bill ! The account number was not enough information for their billing system . It would take 10-14 business days to get me a copy (no email or fax allowed) and of course they would not waive finance charges or interest. It is my responsibility to ensure a better U.S. Postal system. Four (now 5 ?) Marines shot, killed and we hear from DC-maybe we’ll look into it. Other folks killed and we riot & play politics on the news for days/weeks. They’ll be investigating what flags were flying in the neighborhood. (Tip- Quick put a flag up for whatever group or cause is getting your panties in a bunch ! ) At the “Open ” golf balls can’t even stay in one spot on the green so play is called....

Away Too Long

Many of you have reminded me I haven’t been blogging as I have in the past and you are right. I have been dealing with a couple family situations that continue, but I will be trying to post more often yet probably shorter posts. All the posts won’t necessarily be teaching or coaching related, but I’ll do a better job of sharing some thoughts with you. Any prayers or good thoughts for my family would be appreciated and accepted.   Quick update–Over the 4th of July holiday, I had a chance to spend some time with my family in Northern Michigan. Getting out of the city and breathing some fresh “Up North” air sure felt good. Some beach time, fishing off the dock with the grandkids, 9 holes of golf, a little woodcarving, traditional pre-fireworks putt-putt with the little guys, the  County fireworks show etc.–were long overdue. Hopefully you and yours also had a chance to kick back. Returning home returned the craziness  but…. it is home sweet home ! Talk again soon ! Share...

We Need An Answer

Yes, we need an answer. Daily we see ugly incidents in our country, in our world. Mass killing, police abuse, hate the police, hate out government, get those gays, attack the bible thumpers. Find an advocate for your favorite cause and hate everyone else. The news covers in detail all these atrocious incidents  in detail. For days. Politicians build careers and campaigns on these BIG news stories. It has to stop. The answer ? I don’t know. I really don’t. I’m not sure anyone knows THE answer, but we have to start. Love is part of the solution. Tolerance is part. Responsibility by the media  to not glorify these incidents is part. Limiting the hours, days weeks covering this crap so it is not constantly in our face is part. We, need to demand , yes demand this ! No new laws, politicians spin the news way, way to much. We need to get more involved. Ask for a shift in our news, our thinking, our  actions. Our thoughts effect our feelings, our actions, our results. I don’t have the magic wand to fix this. Wish I did. We need to really think about this and act. We need to talk about this. Let me know what you think. Be respectful, it starts there. I’m waiting to see your thoughts and comments.   Share...

5 BOOKS TO PACK FOR MEMORIAL DAY

What’s on the nightstand returns ! Many of you are complaining I am behind on my book reviewing but………. Please remind me ! These posts slip by me and I’m on  to other books or 10 different directions. I have 5-6 more reports for you so I’m dumping on you guys to remind me. Here are 5 to check out ! 1) Grow a Pair-Larry Winget. This book was actually a gift from Suzanne Evans (no relationship, but I adopt!)-Larry never pulls any punches and writes about not holding back. Success sometimes is delayed because people are afraid of many, many things. Larry, tells you to “grow a pair” and offers some solid advice on “how to”. 2) Happy, Happy, Happy-Phil Robertson–You will either love or hate Phil from Duck Dynasty. I love Phil’s humor and un-politically correct shoot from the hip viewpoints . In this overly PC world, refreshing honesty is shared. Run to buy it or run away–your call ! 3) Cross My Heart-James Patterson- An Alex Cross thriller in typical Alex Cross style but the book ends on a “to be continued”. I hate the cliff hanger, wait to my next book style. 4) The War of Art-Steven Pressfield- Steven offers everyday advice on how to get inside your own head and solve problems you are facing. Solve obstacles, procrastination, depression etc. I was told this book would rock my world but… good info. but disappointing 5) The Five People You Meet In Heaven-Mitch Albom-Mitch spins an interesting tale full of life lessons once again. Mitch tells a story of how and sometimes why, “stuff” happens in...

I DARE YOU TO TRY THIS !

I recently heard a story that I thought was very moving and extraordinary. The ending will surprise you but THE story is worth a couple minutes of your time. Stay with me. The story takes place in South Africa. A white police officer was convicted of killing and then burning a young black teenager. Years later, the same officer returned to the teenager’s home and beat, bound and  burned his father to death. He was convicted of this murder also. After the conviction, the judge turns to the wife, mother and asks how justice should be done to the man who brutally destroyed her family. This women, a Christian women, asked for three things: 1) She wanted to be taken to the place her husband had been burned so she could gather some dust and give him a decent burial. 2) She wanted the police officer to become her “son” as she no longer had any family.  She wanted him required to visit her for a day twice a month so she could pour out her love that was still remaining. 3) She wanted the police officer to know she forgave him and wanted to hug him and tell him she forgave him . Remarkable isn’t it?? I couldn’t do it ! How about you? By the way, the police officer fainted as he crossed the courtroom for his hug !   Share...

Are You An Avery 5160 ?

Avery labels are the number one labels used all over the United States. The 5160 is as far as I can tell the best selling label around. Thanks goodness these are self sticking labels so we avoid licking the yucky stuff we had to for years. Yucky stuff that a former secretary of mine told me held calories she didn’t need or want. Labels are also used to describe “things” and even people. Labels are put on out children and grandchildren early in life. Pre-schoolers are labelled advanced or slow and placed in groups. Those same children are labelled as nice or trouble makers. Labels are attached with that peel off sticky stuff way to quick. I laughed and then shook my head as sports writers labelled all the new Detroit Lions draft picks. The writers have doomed these players before they ever get started with their professional careers. Labels, negative labels oozed all over the sports page and television sports reports. Take a look at what they said about Detroit’s draft picks round by round:   Round 1- Laken Tomlinson-Too intelligent (God forbid), will protect his hands (wants to be a surgeon AFTER football), too small (6feet4, 330 lbs) Round 2 – Ameer Abdullah-Small hands, lacks “ideal” size Round 3- Alex Carter- Lacks “ideal” ball skills Round 4 – Gabe Wright- average height, short arms Round 5- Michael Burton- Short arms, not “ideal” size Round 6- Doesn’t have “elite” speed or “enough” size Round 7- Corey Robinson- Inconsistent, questions about his work ethic and  “killer” instinct   With all these labels why any team would draft these men is in...

A Night With Deepak Chopra

The other day, my sister Kathy invited me to go see Deepak as he was in town , at Renaissance Unity church promoting his new book-The 13th Disciple. Detroit was the first stop on his tour. Lately, I have been running on empty. I have had many long days taking care of everyday business, dealing with business challenges and working hard on business growth. I also have been dealing with some very stressful family issues just to keep me on my toes. I had no idea how I would squeeze this in my schedule but knew I needed to be there. Besides spending some time with Kathy, I knew my head needed an adjustment. I have been thinking a lot lately of changes I need to make, how I can best help people, how I can take better care of Doug and how to slow down a little. Maybe more than a little. Deepak’s words, his insight, had to fit some how. The majority of the evening’s presentation was classic Deepak repeating philosophies he has taught us for many years. Insights that touch you at a very deep level. Insights that when I was growing up we called “heavy stuff”. I’d like to share just a few of my personal highlights of the evening. 70 % of the universe is dark matter. It can not be seen and is INFERRED by everything scientists know of and hold true. “Inferred” blew me away. Dark matter discussions get real theoretical but spend 5-10 minutes on Google and check it out. Quote of the night- “We are all God in drag !”...